No matter how many books you read, websites you visit or Pinterest boards you create, there is only one thing that can truly prepare you for parenthood. And that, my friends, is your child.
Before I had my first child, I knew how to be a mum.
I knew how tired I would be. But any parent will know, there is no exhaustion like the exhaustion of having a newborn at home. And any parent will tell you that there is no point in telling a soon-to-be Mum, because you really can’t know until you experience it. And I quickly learnt that I had NO idea how tired I would be.
I knew how to be organised. Except this flew out the window the day my first was born, when I realised I’d forgotten to pack undies in my hospital bag. Baby brain is a real people, and nothing can quite prepare you for the mental breakdown you will have when you’re on the phone to you husband because you have looked everywhere and you just can’t find your phone…
I knew how to prepare a meal. From the day I moved in with my hubby I just loved the idea of us eating dinner at the table every night. I was told to make sure I had lots of frozen meals in the freezer ready for life as a mum, but I wasn’t worried. I knew how to cook an easy meal. Yup, you guessed it, we lived off take away, steamed veg and pasta in the first few months of parenthood.
I knew I would love my child. In fact, from the moment I found out I was pregnant I was completely in love with my child. But, for me, it wasn’t that instant BANG that you hear about. It was a slow and intense. My heart still twangs at the thought of how much I love my child, I never knew I had so much love in me- and no one could have ever told me.
Throughout my first pregnancy, I spent a large amount of my time researching motherhood. From raising boys, to clean eating with kids, I had read it all. But I quickly learnt that the child these books wrote about, he was not my son. And these mothers they were written for, it was not me.
So we made our own rules, and have created our own journey. And everyday, I am excited to see where this journey will take us.
This pregnancy, I have not researched motherhood. I have not ever googled how to raise a girl, or how to raise two kids. Instead, I listen to my husband, my son, my peers and myself whilst preparing myself to be completely unprepared. And you know what, it’s SO exciting.
What did you do to prepare for your first child? And what about your second?