It’s been 4.5 years since I last had a newborn in the house, and in those 4.5 years my hind sure has thickened.
The first time around I spent far too long reading parenting books, magazines and blogs- hanging on to every.word I read. But the thing is one article will tell you one thing, whilst the next article will completely contradict what you’ve just read.
It’s all a bit of a head fuck really.
So I decided to add to an already flooded discussion. Here are my tips on how to be a new Mum…
1. Don’t let your newborn cry. Or do let them cry. Because sometimes you just have to pick your newborn up at the first sign of distress. And sometimes, you just can’t. And that’s okay, because this newborn business is hard and sometimes putting a screaming baby down in their cot and walking away is the best thing for everyone.
2. Ask for help. Or tell people you don’t want their help… Man it’s nice when your nearest and dearest pop over with a big plate of food and head straight to the kitchen cleaning everything in their path. But sometimes, having guests in your house when you have a newborn is more stressful than it is helpful. Sometimes, your morning doesn’t go as planned and you’re allowed to call up your scheduled guest and tell them not today, that’s okay they’ll understand.
3. Try and leave the house everyday. Or just have a pyjama day… By about day three of being home from the hospital I was going stir crazy, all four of us were! Our first outing was absolute bliss, so we tried it again the second day. It was a nightmare. Too much too soon. It’s a balancing act, this parenting a newborn gig and it’s not simple. But as long as you don’t over do it, and stay true to you, you’ll do fine!
4. Eat a healthy diet, or just eat really. You are what you eat, and whilst you’re breast feeding- so is your baby. So it’s great if you can eat three healthy meals a day, but that takes a LOT of effort, effort that you probably don’t have. So stock up on some frozen meals, grab some cold meats and have a pizza night every now and again. The main thing is that you and your family eat!
5. Enjoy your newborn, but it’s okay to cry. You’ll never get this time with your newborn again, it really is a magical time. But you won’t enjoy every moment. Some days you will just go through the motions with your baby and go to bed feeling like you’ve accomplished absolutely nothing. And sometimes it all feels too much, I mean having a newborn is REALLY hard and occasionally you might fall apart. And that’s okay, because tomorrow is a new day.
Being a parent is hard enough without trying to follow every piece of advice out there. So here’s one final piece of advice don’t take my advice. Do what is right for you and yours. Sure find out what other mothers are doing, but don’t stress out if it doesn’t work for you. Just remember, every baby is different and every parent is different.
What’s the best piece of advice you ever received? And how about the worst?
*If you are really struggling with this new parenting gig, don’t go it alone. Contact Beyond Blue for resources.