What they don’t tell you about being a parent

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If you’re anything like me, when you made the decision to become a parent then you did a whole lot of googling.

You read about the joys of being a parent. The first smiles, the first steps, the first words, hearing them say “I love you” for the first time.

You read about the trials of being a parent. The sleepless nights, the nappy blow outs, the tantrums, hearing them say “I hate you” for the first time.

But what you don’t read about, what no one tells you – is that it can be absolutely heartbreaking.

Your child is like a raw nerve walking around on the outside of your body, and every time they hurt, you hurt ten fold.

Every time they have a hard day, and you see the stress in their little eyes as they hold back the tears… your heart absolutely breaks and you have to keep it together and tell them it’s going to be okay. 

When they fall over and scratch their knee and you watch them trying not to overreact and holding back every instinct to swoop in, when you let them get up and dust themselves off because you know that they need to decide if they need you for themselves… it’s the hardest thing.

Being a parent, it’s incredible. Most days you go to bed feeling totally fulfilled about the little humans you are sharing this life with.

But some days you find yourself up at midnight worried about an event that upset your child that day, more worried than you would ever be if that excact thing happened to you.

Because your children are your rawest nerve, and no matter how much you protect them it’s inevitable that they are going to have shitty days.

And as their parent, it’s heartbreaking to watch. Even though that we know this is a part of life, an important part of life, it doesn’t make it any easier… 

Whoops, I spent it again

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Impulse spending. 


Now that’s a hard habit to break. 

You know what I’m talking about, going into to a shop to check out a sale and OMG everything is so cheap – $150 later you have a bag full of crap you don’t need! 

Avocado smash is NOT my problem. ‘Sales’ are my problem.

It’s crazy, at the time of the purchase I’m so thrilled with the amount of money I’m saving.

Except I’m not.

So here’s a little secret I’ve learnt about ‘sales’.

It’s always on sale!

What? I hear you say.

So the way that sales get you is by making you feel that if you don’t buy it there and then you will miss out. 

I’ve worked in retail, I’ve hidden stock out the back to make it look like we were low on stock. It’s a real thing.

I’ve also price matched other stores with ridiculously low prices. Heck, I’ve even gone lower! 

In fact, just by asking for a discount – most electronic stores will give you one. And if they tell you it’s as low as they go, then go to another store and get them to beat that price! 

And at the end of the day, if you do miss out – look, it’s really not the end of the world. 

You’re not actually saving money if you’re spending money, especially on impulse purchases. 

So wait, go have a coffee or better yet go home and do some research on the product and see if you are actually saving money / you do actually need to product.

Better yet, take the money, put it away and spend the afternoon in the park or catching up with a friend! 

Impulse spending is still a habit I am working hard to break, I’m not there yet. 

I’m trying a new thing were I sit on a purchase for a week before buying it. It’s pretty challenging and I’ve still found the owner of shit I don’t need, because hey it’s cheap BUT I’m working on it. 

I’m aiming to be thoughtful of my purchases and put the days of impulse shopping behind me! 

Any tips to getting through sale season?? 

Social media: Or how I taught people to stop worrying and love the SOCMED pt 1

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One of the biggest challenges faced with being behind the growth in social media in any organisation is to try and get those who do not understand it, to love it.


Social media is a lot of things. It is new, it is now and it is public just to name a few.

It is also incredible and exciting.

Yet so many people in upper management overlook the role social media can play in the growth of any organisation, and consider it a tick box exercise. They’re okay with it, they let it go, but they don’t necessarily support it and they rarely contribute to it. Why? They simply don’t love it.

I have worked in two organisations communication departments. The first organisation had a gun of a social media manager, and my role with social media was the planning side of things which kept the upper management off her back. Essentially I always had to explain the why and the how whilst she did the what.

It wasn’t easy for her, although she’d never admit it, to continuously manage upwards as the upper management had high expectations and minimal resources.

And by resources, I mean people.

“It’s ironic that most companies spend 50% to 70% of their money on people’s salaries. And yet they spend less than 1% of their budget to train their people. Most companies, in fact, spend more time and money on maintaining their buildings and equipment than they do on maintaining and developing their own people”[i]

But they did a lot of things right too. They encouraged staff to all incorporate the organisations branding in their social media, and had begun looking into a social media policy to ensure reputational risks were kept at bay.

They, primarily the social media manager, ensured that the staff LOVED social media!

“To take full advantage of social media on an enterprise level, you need senior leadership to push social media practices organization-wide and become agents of change themselves.”[ii]

The benefits of having the entire organisation involved in social media is far greater than simply brand promotion.

Having the entire organisation on board, means your content will remain fresh, interactive and interesting to your audience.

“People are more likely to communicate through both word-of-mouth and social media when they are engaged with the product, service, or idea.”[iii]

When I first started at my current organisation as the social media coordinator, I had a challenge in front of me. Whilst no one was against social media, very few people were particularly ‘for’ it.

I would spend hours trolling through the organisations website trying to find content for social media. Luckily, the Twitter already had a strong following and the Facebook wasn’t entirely unloved. I had a good foundation to start from.

Now I actually have to schedule people in to share their content. I have staff working on images to share on social media and I recently recruited volunteers to assist with social media at our annual conference.

Getting my colleagues to LOVE social media means that I am able to curate a higher quality of content.

It also means that you can work as a team through any reputational risks that present themselves through social media. If you are confident that your organisation is as passionate about social media as you, you can walk into the office of the relevant manager (or director when the case calls for it) and discuss the best management plan when this risks rear their ugly head.

“This prevalence and open nature of the platform that is bringing an entirely new set of reputation risks to businesses, with implications on their wider perception management strategy.”[iv]

It is crucial, as the social media voice of the organisation, that the facts you share are correct. And the best way to get these facts are from the subject matter expert.

Remember, your organisations social media accounts are representative of the entire organisation. The BEST way to represent the entire organisation is to have everyone not just on board, but passionate about the social media plans you create and the implementation of such plans.

“Social media literally is the means by which your business can relate to, exist in and influence human communities. In short: social media is human interaction. Taking part in social media means your business must become more human to be more successful.”[v]

In part two next week I will share with you all how I went about implementing this organisational shift.

[i] The One Minute Manager. Kenneth Blanchard PHD, Spencer Johnson M.D


[iii] Social media: The new hybrid element of the promotion mix W. Glynn Mangold a,*, David J. Faulds b




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28.12.2014 – 04.01.2015

3.4 years

Oliver says:

Me: Oliver, did you do a pop off?
“No Mummy, it was my BUMMMM!”

Me: You have to go to Kindy next week.
“No, cuz cuz cuz a truck reversed into it and CRASHED it.”
After driving past it to show him it was still there:
“Oh, okay then!”

After I walk out of my bedroom dressed in my New Year’s Eve Outfit:
“Wow Mummy, cool! Why aren’t you dancing?”

After treating his rubbing rash with Aloe Vera:
“I feel better already!”

Whilst laughing at a joke on his favourite TV show, Octonauts:

New Year, new you… and all that jazz!

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Can you believe its 2015 already? I just got used to the fact that it’s 2014.

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But here we are and I have a good feeling about this year. I’m not big on that stuff, the whole new year new me thing. But this year feels different.

This year, my husband is moving home after 12 months living apart. I have a fantastic job, a great house, the best friends and of course my amazing little Oliver J.

So I thought, what the heck, I am going to give my much unloved blog a new look, some new found love and some new content.

So who is Patch Imperfect? It’s a blog about everything that’s not quite perfect, but wonderful in its imperfections.

It’s about fashion, and being midsized in a society that is obsessed with being petite or plus sized. It’s about health, with the occasional chocolate binge. It’s about the job I love and the family I adore and my inability to fully enjoy one without feeling guilty about the other.

If you want to contribute to patch imperfect, please contact me.

I look forward to sharing 2015 with you all, in all its chaotic imperfections.